Sunday, February 27, 2011

it's that time of the month ...

#healthmonth ... lock and load your rules (and any exceptions) for march. there are eleven new rules and a rules wizard. remember you have until march 1 before midnight to load up your rules. they will be locked in by march 2.

team CDWL@edi ... we are doing great. however, i see we all have some catching up to do - i had 3 days in the queue. checked that off my list this morning.

new team members interested ... if you know anyone interested in joining team CDWL@edi, make sure to let me know so i can approve him/her. and as a reminder, our team is over here, and we have DAILY DO and DAILY DON'T requirements. and they can join health month over here.

11 new rules for march ... have you checked out the new rules? i know there are some that several team CDWL@edi may enjoy! of the 11, the several that come to mind -
  • do yoga
  • stretch
  • do your household chores
  • walk at least x steps a day
  • track your spending
and a few more rules from the 4-hour body slow carb diet and the no s diet.
other suggestions ... perhaps someone should simply suggest to buster -
do cross fit WOD
- as a rule, eh?! (yes, i'm talking to smiles and j-ro - wink! - if you've not yet done so.) here is the uservoice forums/health month idea tracker to do so.

rollover your rules from february, aka rules wizard ...
and i believe everyone has seen this already. buster added a feature to import your last month's rules. when i used it earlier last week, the notes and exceptions had not rolled-over consistently; some notes were mixed up under other rules. nevertheless, a GREAT update to healtlh month!
see you in march team CDWL@edi,
and maybe we'll have some new team players!


side note: i've been getting requests from health month'rs to join team CDWL@edi or
simply for sponsorship. and for some, they are giving me lives and fruit
AND asking for sponsorship. how about you all? getting asked, also?

#love2011: week 9 on celebrating age

the love project ... this week's assignment - celebrating age.
(image from artist:
kelly paige standard)


yvette, the project's creator, has included a main assignment and an option simply for a quick version of the week 9 assignment -
Assignment 9: Write a blog post or comment about your age and why it is the perfect age to be. Variations might be what you think the perfect age is and why. You can also talk about your birthday, why it's special, and how you are going to celebrate. Or if you really just want a very easy Love Project Assignment, then help me celebrate MY age by leaving me a Happy Birthday comment! Today I'm 51!
(last week's assignment: week 8 on reframing rejection
day after yvette's birthday - TODAY, 02/27 ... it's a GREAT DAY today - just-a-smidge-over 1-year anniversary of yvette's book over here and on amazon.

on internet radio - TODAY, 02/27 ... and CONGRATS to yvette and her book (The Laptop Dancer Diaries: A Mostly True Story About Finding Love Again) and her blog (Single Again Online Diary) for being featured on Boston's the dating marketplace with nic & neely, unregularradio.com internet radio - their show this evening at 8 pm (EST) and therefore 5 pm (PST) for west coast folks.

someecards.com - Just wanted to say happy birthday on the off chance it's not one of the other 364 days

happy happy joy joy birthday, yvette!
... yesterday (feb 26) was yvette's prime number (51) birthday, so as is the case for any birthday greeting ...

and of course,
the happy happy joy joy celebratory chant
is from mr. stinky wizzleteats
of ren & stimpy fame or infamy(?) (over here)


happy prime number 51!

f|break: sunday morning

just some kitty fun
shared by kaanswfm


funny pictures - Hello.. my troop is selling Squirrel Scout coo...   I'll just come back after  you find  your pants..
see more Lolcats and funny pictures

(shirlnutkin approves)

Saturday, February 26, 2011

hipmtfn: reverbin' in 2011

#reverb11 ... just as with the december 2010 reverb10's reflecting and manifesting, there is a monthly reverb11 -
"Happy February! We're excited to be reconnecting with the Reverb community. At the beginning of each month, Reverb HQ will send one prompt, several reflect/manifest tools, and any other creative, useful things we come across. We're also back on Twitter, so you can follow us @reverb10. ... Like #reverb10, you may respond to this prompt as-is or remix it to suit your needs. Write, blog, photograph, draw or respond however you'd like. Tag on Twitter or Flickr with the hashtag "#reverb11" to share with others!"

this means there will be a monthly, thought-provoking question. and so it begins ...

february '11 prompt ... One month into 2011, what question(s) are you living? Are there any prompts/questions that arose during #reverb10 that are still resonating in your life? Are you living new questions?


the reflect & manifest tools shared ...
my thoughts - your heart's desire 2011 ... for me, questions that i am living are a product of activities, goals, and dreams with your heart's desire (yhd) as the framework. annually since the last '90s, i've checked-in on my annual yhd, with yhd2011 being no different. this year, goal statements came in the form of mindset, along with support (or tools) to move through a yhd.

"Are there any prompts/questions that arose during #reverb10 that are still resonating in your life?" ... there certainly are several that continue to resonate in my life, particularly those intentions for manifesting in 2011. also, several are inter-related with some common themes -
  • 2011 manifestions ... i am mindful of those prompts with manifestation type statements or prospective actions -
    • one word (enthusiasm),
    • community (to be part of/create) (apprentern, ignorance and knowledge, environmental professional development),
    • 11 (eleven) things (to eliminate) (paper stuff, dream zappers, extra journals, eating habits, impatience, exercise excuses, fridge cemetary, listening to harmful gossip, time suck shiny pennies, over-analyzing when decisiom-making, retail therapy),
    • action (related to apprenternship),
    • try (cross-fit),
    • healing (enthusiasm),
    • beyond avoidance (finances),
    • future self (vision board, authenticity, cubeopolis, fair, forthright, self-aware),
    • travel (domestic, abroad, family, friends, food, shoes - local, chicago, vermont, oregon, nyc, boston, d.c., spain, vancouver),
    • everything's o.k. (exploring how i can contribute to the issues of ignorance, etc.),
    • achieve (be speechless - fun variety of things),
    • defining moment (includes a recap at end of cubeopolis-related reverb10 reflections), and
    • core story (family, friends, lists, mindmapping, reflection, introspection, writing).
  • relationships and connections ... i found myself reflecting on events that are shaping my actions and behaviors to relate and connect with a variety of people, while also being with that tribe (as in how seth godin has shared with wired.com and here at TED) - so about relationships -
    • moment (on being true to one's self)
    • wonder (asking questions - who, what, where, when, how, why, and why not)
    • letting go (creating space to connect with others and to serve)
    • party (small group, food-centered social fun, esp. breaksfast buds/brunch)
    • appreciate (importance of friends like shiny penny andy)
    • friendship (silver lining friendships, preferred)
    • lesson learned (on being forthright)
    • ordinary joy (importance of friends like sci-fi guy)
    • defining moment (on cubeopolis, with recap of related reverb10 prompts)
prompts that stand out ... of the more than 20 above, i'd say the top 10 that are currently most shaping where i am now include - one word, community (to be part of/create), 11 (eleven) things (to eliminate), action, future self, beyond avoidance, everything's o.k., wonder, friendship, and defining moment. and if i had to just narrow it down to the top 3 - future self, friendship, and defining moment. these top 3 have the most common roots with my responses to the other top 20+ reverb10 prompts/questions.

"Are you living new questions?"
... indeed, after coming out of reverb10 with a little bit (well, maybe more like LOTS) of withdrawal, i am excited about evolving with healthier habits as health month is part of that, learning more about love in life with the love project (as part of more thoughts on community and blogger bosom buddies), and creating a community inspired (oddly enough) by the defining moment with an excuse to add to cubealabras and share cubeopolis tales. AND in yhd2011 words - these touch upon health & body, creative expression, and relationships.

oh future self ...
it's time to work on my vision board and
a website (in the making)!


Friday, February 25, 2011

f|break: friday morn

prince ... (again). yes, total old he sang take me with you yesterday evening. remember it? i do.

enjoy the friday morn fiber break with prince (over here)
for ~4:34 minutes in song and slamming licks

f|break: we (re)princed

yes ... (again). pho queen and i went to the closing welcome 2 america show yesterday evening. in other words, we saw prince on thursday (as well as wednesday). by lunch, tickets were secure for the SAME SECTION we were in, 3 rows closer AND coincidence had us sitting next to 2 people from cubeopolis. other friends were across from us.

enjoy prince as if you were there but not (over here) but we were
for ~ 16 minutes with delirious, 1999, and little red corvette
(before this gets taken away)

Thursday, February 24, 2011

special, just for my friend ...

dear au,
i smiled when i saw your facebook status this morning!


so this clip is for you ...
enjoy your fiber break with three divas (over here)
for ~ 3:30 min doing a cover of prince's kiss.

Alicia Keys, Gwen Stefani & Missy Elliott - Kiss (Live)
Uploaded by Schutzengerl1205. - Music videos, artist interviews, concerts and more.

f|break: thursday morn


prince ... (again) back from this evening's concert, nearly midnight. from last friday's purchase to this evening, pho queen and i are happy campers in our seats.

we had a pretty decent view from our seats, eh?

and you'll just have to take my word for it that this is prince during his first set after singing little red corvette.

will post more info and pics (from pho queen) later.

setlist for wednesday night (over here)
meanwhile, larry graham sang one in a million you.
enjoy the song over here for ~ 4:13 minutes

Love has played its games on me so long.
I started to believe I'd never find anyone,
that could try to convince me to give in.
Said you can't win.

But one day the sun came shining through.
The rain had stopped, and the skies were blue.
And oh, what a revelation to see...
someone was saying "I love you" to me.

One in a million, chance of a lifetime.
Life showed compassion,
and sent to me a stroke of luck called you...
a one in a million you.

I was a lonely man with empty arms to fill.
Until I found a piece of paradise to call my own.
And life is worth living again.
For, to love you, to me, is to live.

One in a million, chance of a lifetime.
Life showed compassion,
and sent to me a stroke of luck called you...
a one in a million you.

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

f|break: mid-week morn

prince ... (again) just one prince fiber break for today, 'cuz pho queen and i are seeing prince tonight in section 127, row 12. yesterday's fiber break of the most beautiful girl in the world for pho queen has a link to the previous prince clip posts.

monday's show ... here are some reviews of monday's show over here from sfgate, from sj's mercury news, from 99.7 radio, . and here's the setlist.

b-sides ... while picking up coffee at paddy's, paddy mentioned the b-sides.

(there is a whole generation - at least - who does not know what a b-side is ... shame)





enjoy your fiber break with prince (over here)
for ~ 3:46 min on the b-side with erotic city


Erotic City - Prince
Uploaded by abelflexes. - Explore more music videos.

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

f|break: tuesday nooner

prince ... (again) two fiber breaks a day ... with this morn's recap of past prince fiber breaks and superbowl extravaganza, this is dedicated to my concert-going-bud, pho queen, who is NOT wearing a raspberry beret.

enjoy your fiber break with prince (over here)
for ~3:35 min for the most beautiful girl in the world

"could u be the most beautiful girl in the world?"

#love2011: gathering week 8 thoughts

reframing rejection ... this week 8 love project assignment on reframing rejection is giving me a little nudge to continue rolling over old blog posts (from 2006-2009) into girlnutkin.

as mentioned in yesterday's post about the week 8 assignment -
"... from rejection, i have found i experience moments of writing emerge. little epiphanies pop-up, and reminders of lessons learned peek around the corner. the main thing is that i MUST acknowledge these moments. so that means i write, acknowledge mini-epiphanies, and learn a few lessons."
(pic of my friend todd, because he will cut you!)

flashback rejections result in writing ...
dating - a common topic of rejection. and so the story goes -
  • in early 2007 ... i dated a man for a couple of months, for which we spent at least 4 days a week with each other amidst home-cooked meals 2-3 nights a week and a full weekend day of personal projects, errands, and date night to cap it off. then we broke up, and i was VERY SAD. then i wrote about it.
  • in the spring of 2008 ... my ex-boyfriend emailed me; we reconnected and started dating again - on and off throughout the rest of the year. then in early 2009, we broke up, and i was VERY SAD. then i wrote about it.
  • in winter 2009 ... my ex and i agreed to be just friends. we saw imogen heap at the fillmore. fun. i was clear on the "just friends" after the concert; he was not. he later poo-poo'd my not hanging out with him after the concert, however, we remained friendly. several weeks later, after wishing him (via telephone) happy holidays/new years, he divulged that even before he and i met and dated, he was in a long distance relationship and the woman he was seeing was staying with him.
  • it's 2011 ... we will not reconnect. it's mutual.
writing to express my feelings ... for each of the little milestone break-ups, i have discovered my go-to of writing to express my feelings. and
  • in 2007 ... i wrote my foreigner. this short little story actually started off as an email. i don't remember at what point i decided to throw it into a story. i think it was after i got tired of listening to myself, burdening my friends, crying, and just spending way too much time on a treadmill of sadness. the result? - self-discovery, as shared in the story.
  • in 2009 ... i wrote let me believe. like my foreigner, this story started off as an email. and when i spoke to a few friends about this "round 2", i kept saying that i could not believe what happened - again. well, as my friend, reggie, shared during one of my "i'm-sad-for-myself and i-want-to-talk-about-it-more-than-i-should and maybe-i'll-heal-but-for-now and blah-blah-blah pity-party" ... reggie said, "girlfriend, believe it!" and then poof - let me believe was written. i read this outloud for nearly 3 weeks straight.
lessons and transitions ... in reframing rejection, i believe i did learn more about myself and relationships through the break-ups -
  • from my foreigner, as shared in the story, i learned about ignorance. my thoughts were shared in a may 2007 post (reposted over here). and this has since resulted in my being very interested and exploring race, ignorance, knowledge as shared over here.

  • from let me believe, when i read it now, i have learned the importance of communications - spoken and unspoken, and although it all may sound like a cliche, i have a choice ... i have choices - how to react, how to transition, how to heal, etc.
friend shares support ... i do remember my sadness, shock, anger, and confusion back in 2007. and i am reminded of a quote sent to me in april 2007 from my friend tracy ...
Confronting our feelings and giving them appropriate expression always takes strength, not weakness. It takes strength to acknowledge our anger, and sometimes more strength yet to curb the aggressive urges anger may bring and to channel them into nonviolent outlets. It takes strength to face our sadness and to grieve and to let our grief and our anger flow in tears when they need to. It takes strength to talk about our feelings and to reach out for help and comfort when we need it.
- Fred Rogers
from "The World According to Mr. Rogers"
thanks, love project,
for my moments of flashback.
awesome lessons learned and learning!


f|break: tuesday half-time morning

prince ... (again) just like the past few days with getting tickets for wednesday's show, chuckling with dave chapelle's prince plays basketball, nostalgia with when doves cry and i wanna be your lover, the 2006 brit awards show, and now it's time for something from this decade.

the 2007 superbowl halftime show ... with the set list of some prince and some covers intro we will rock you, let’s go crazy, 1999, baby i’m a star, (creedance clearwater revival) proud mary, baby i’m a star, (piece of bob dylan) all along the watchtower, (foo fighters) best of you, and closing with purple rain.

enjoy your tuesday morning with prince (over here)
for ~ 12 minutes at the 2007 superbowl halftime show
('cuz one day, this will simply be a black box below)

... and as included in the youtube description

American singer and musician, Prince, performed in the Pepsi Super Bowl XLI Halftime Show in 2007. The performance opened with a short rendition of "We Will Rock You" by Queen. Prince then sang hits from the Purple Rain album, "Let's Go Crazy" and "Baby I'm A Star" followed by cover versions of the Creedence Clearwater Revival hit "Proud Mary", the Bob Dylan composition "All Along the Watchtower", and the Foo Fighters song "Best of You". He then finished with his signature song, "Purple Rain".

The 12-minute performance featured Prince accompanied by two dancers he calls "The Twinz" and the Florida A&M University marching band, the Marching 100.

Prince played before 74,512 fans at Dolphin Stadium. The event was carried "to the biggest audience of his life - 140 million television viewers."

Overall, the show was energetic and quite well-received by the rain-soaked audience surrounding the stage. Music critics were extremely enthusiastic about his performance, one calling it "arguably the best halftime show in Super Bowl history", and others saying it was one of the best ever."

Monday, February 21, 2011

f|break: monday nooner

prince ... (again) fiber breaks are gonna keep being prince breaks - happening until wednesday, 'cuz pho queen and i are seeing prince on wednesday in section 127, row 12.

2006 brit awards ... four song set list opening with te amo corazon, fury (begins at 2:45 min), purple rain (begins after 5 min), and let's go crazy (begins after 9 min). awesome guitarist!

enjoy your fiber break with the brit awards (over here)
for ~ 11 minutes of four prince songs

f|break: monday morning

prince ... (again). fiber breaks are gonna keep being prince breaks - happening until wednesday, 'cuz pho queen and i are seeing prince on wednesday in section 127, row 12.

remember this one? ... i was in junior high school. (i am pretty certain pho queen was an idea to be born circa 1979.) another moment of nostalgia -

enjoy your fiber break tidbit with prince (over here)
for ~ 1 minute of the classic i wanna be your lover

(yes ... i remember this one)

Sunday, February 20, 2011

h|month-terview (jan '11): with specgirl part dos

get to know #healthmonth team CDWL@edi. based on the h|month-terview questions over here. and this is specgirl's part dos after specgirl's part uno.

(SIDE NOTE: this our our team's add-on-fun, inspired by healthmonth and is NOT formally part of the on-line healthmonth experience. but hey! spurring on creativity is a good thing, too!)

previous h|month-terview: hiccups (part 1), shirlnutkin, specgirl (part 1), pho queen, smiles

from the remaining mash-up james lipton + bernard pivot questions ...
  • If you were reincarnated as some other plant or animal, what would it be? A seal.
  • If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the Pearly Gates? Everything is going to be alright.
from the BONUS - healthmonth-themed questions ...
  • What is your favorite healthmonth rule (whether or not you follow it), and why (optional)? Two rules give me a great energy high. Exercise 5 days a week and sleep at least 7 hours every day.
  • What is your least favorite healthmonth rule (whether or not you follow it), and why (optional)? Take a multivitamin every day. Yeah, so I intend to follow it, but prefer not to swallow a pill designed for a horse.
  • What is your healthy natural high? See above...exercise and sleep. :)
  • What do the voices in your head yell when you meet 100% of your daily goals? So far so good!
  • What do the voices in your head yell when you do not meet 100% of your daily goals? Okay, a set-back, but will recover tomorrow!
  • What sound or noise do you love when you exercise? Right now I'm shuffling among GNR, Don't Think by The Chemical Brothers, A Tribe Called Quest, Lauryn Hill, and some DJ Spooky. (So you probably get the picture, loud and fast.)
  • What sound or noise do you hate when you exercise? Muzak
  • What is your favorite curse word when you lose a life? Please see part one re profanity. Recall, you get a free drink out of this if you really want to know. :)
  • Who/What would you like to see as a new healthmonth spirit animal? A penguin. (Is this new?)
  • What athlete, exercise-guru, health-lifestyle-guru and/or health-philosophy(ies) do you like, have a crush on, love, or want to marry? Maria Sharapova, Andre Agassi (sans headband/mullet), Apollo Anton Ohno, and Dara Torres.
  • What athlete, exercise-guru, healthy-lifestyle-guru, or woo-woo-guru (i.e., a REAL person) would you like to kick in the shins, e.g., could live without, don't like, think s/he sucks, etc.? (don't worry, we'll get karma points back.) I agree with Smiles and PhoQueen ....Dr. Phil and Oprah.
  • If after you lost a few karma points for kicking someone in the shins (see above question), what would be the plant or animal you would you like to be reincarnated as? A seal
  • If/When you get to meet Buster (healthmonth-creator), what would you like to hear Buster say, and what "no-more-than-five-words" would you say to Buster?
    • Buster says: "Cocktails are calorie free."
    • I say to Buster: "You rock!"
until the next
team CDWL@edi h|month-terview ...


#love2011: week 8 on reframing rejection

the love project ... this week's assignment - reframing rejection.
(image from artist:
kelly paige standard)


yvette, the project's creator, has included a main assignment and a little extra credit for this week -
Assignment 8: Write about a time you were rejected and realized that it turned out to be a good thing. Maybe it opened a new door for you. Maybe it gave you material for a book or comedy routine (see video!) Maybe it motivated you to keep trying. Maybe it helped you finally get out of a relationship that wasn't good for you. If you leave a comment or write a blog post, I will feature your blog on Website Wednesday.

Extra Credit: Use humor! Find a funny story or video (or make your own!) and let me know about it and I'll include it on the Friday Funny post.
(last week's assignment: week 7 on kindness)

girlnutkin, shirlrelo2, and shirlrelo flashbacks ... given my blogging is just life observed & experienced spewing, i will scour some of my previous blogs' posts for this week 8 love project assignment. killing two birds with one stone - revisiting posts to pull into girlnutkin and reflecting on perspectives and experiences of rejection. (it's like a reverb10 moment - reflecting.)

yvette's sunday tidbit ... yvette shared a thoughtful, simple post today - so you don't get an email response - big deal! for some, it is a big deal - it's a big deal in that person's head. (for others, it's what it is - an unanswered email). so the simple solution - close the loop and check-in with the person.

(side bar rant & rave ... in my physical life - my home, my office, my car trunk, my garage, my purse - i get to choose how i fill up (or not) my space. and having some unoccupied space is great (as borrowed from my friend kit), especially to create new things to come into my life. sometimes my space ebbs and flows with my moods. but for the most part, i look to keep my physical space occupied with those things that feed my soul. (and i'm working toward a better fed cubeopolis existence) ... likewise, if i'm going to have space taken up in my mind, i'm going to choose something worthwhile. rejection? is it really worth taking up space in one's head with all that "story" about an unacknowledged email (or text message or social network comment or phone call) as rejection, with all the negativity behind it? NO, it is not. ... end of side bar)

initial thoughts for week 8 ... from rejection, i have found i experience moments of writing emerge. little epiphanies pop-up, and reminders of lessons learned peek around the corner. the main thing is that i MUST acknowledge these moments. so that means i write, acknowledge mini-epiphanies, and learn a few lessons.

in some cases, for me it's simply about taking a deep breath and being self-aware of the circumstances - AND THEN it becomes a l'il less than simple than that, but it is really important to me - seeking to understand what we create and what (and who, where, why, why not, how) we choose to let rejection affect us. i process this shit as quickly as i can because i believe it's part of becoming a better person.

i am not saying people bring upon rejection, but i am saying that CHOOSING to really experience and understand one's own feelings, reactions, and approaches often associated with rejection - sadness, anger, loneliness, self-esteem loss, hurt, etc. - is really important. choosing to be pissed off - fine, but really?! so take a deep breath THEN choose to be honest, and do not give blame or take blame.

after rejection,
everyone has the right to feel worthy.
occupy your space -
mental, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, physical -
with self-awareness and seeing your potential!

f|break: sunday morning

prince ... (again) pho queen and i will see prince
who is formerly known as [or O(+> ], the artist formerly known as prince

on wednesday in section 127, row 12.

"I went to see the Jackson Five when I was a kid,
and they all wore flat
shoes and it didn't work."

after yesterday's dave chapelle prince plays basketball fun, it's time for some nostalgia - purple rain (and more nostalgia can be found at the prince vault). i saw purple rain when i was in college, danced to the soundtrack at SF clubs, and listened to friends talk about how awesome the prince and the revolution concert was. (yes, i didn't see the purple rain concert.)

enjoy your fiber break with prince (over here)
for ~6 minutes when doves cry

... touch if you will, my stomach
feel how it trembles inside
you've got the butterflies all tied up
don't make me chase you, even doves have pride ...

Saturday, February 19, 2011

f|break: saturday morning

prince ... what else? who else? why not else? and where else -an ultimate on prince discography and rock and roll hall of fame (2004).
"Why does there have to be a soundcheck? I don't have a songcheck. You don't have a clothescheck."
enjoy your fiber break with dave chapelle and crew (over here)
for ~ 5:54 minutes of eddie murphy v. prince playing basketball


"they still got on the same sh** they've been wearing"
"shirts against the blouses"
"why don't you purify yourself in the waters of lake minnetonka?"
"... pancakes ..."

#love2011: day 6 of RAK - donate (and day 5 RAK) ...

#dokindness ... day 6 of the RAK kindness challenge is to donate to a cause. as part of last week's secret valentine's activities, i donated to The Arc of Alameda County on behalf of the woman i had as my secret valentine.

my charity and cause of choice for today's RAK ... jengyee for a better world fund. it's simple (and tax deductible) using pay pal, google checkout, old-school bank transaction, or even donating in the name of someone else with a gift card.

the purpose of jengyee's fund ...

To "better the world", the Fund has three major goals:

  1. Fight Diseases and Improve Health Care Systems,
  2. Preserve Our Planet, and
  3. Develop People.
jengyee and i met ... through a cal mentorship program (a bit over here). we became friends and supporters of each other and of the environment. and as a result of just a simple girlfriend chit-chat, she wrote a book - hello real world - to share with others her thoughts and tidbits for those transitioning from college into the work force. here she with her toastmaster's speech (over here) - be careful what you ask -

enjoy a little break of almost 7 min with jengyee

"confusion, regret, surprise,
fear, hope, disappointment, acceptance"

my friend, jengyee ... died of lupus at the age of 25 years old in november of 2008. in february of 2009, family and friends held a memorial at the cal berkeley campus, and a couple months later on april 27, a memorial tree planting and dedication was held outside on the northside of cal's CITRIS building.

(no transition; just more kindness.)

day 5 ... of the kindness challenge for RAK week was carpool or pay someone's bus, metro or subway fare. my contribution was paying for a commuter's tool.
albeit this was not quite public transportation related, however, i figured if the toll collector would occasionally also tell others (besides the recipient of the gratis toll) that "... it is random acts of kindness week, so please consider doing something kind to another" - well, that's a few more people in the world. (i'll revisit this fare payment kindness when i commute via bus and reduce my carbon footprint.)

got kindness?
consider donating to jengyee's fund,
a new charity, or maybe a favorite of yours.

Friday, February 18, 2011

f|break: give pho queen and me tickets!

PRINCE! ... on wednesday evening (02/23) with prince, with pho queen, with shirlnutkin, at the oracle arena ... (lesson learned -use only ONE BROWSER!)

after at least 18 minutes on-line (with a brief 10-minute stint on the telephone) when tickets went on sale at noon ...










... damn ticketmaster robbery convenience charge, two less pairs of spring 2011 fluevogs (shoes, boots, or purse), and a couple of weeks of austerity ... yet worth every penny. and after FINALLY getting our tickets? pho queen and i were giddy ... giddy, i tell you!


see you in
section 127,
row 12,
bitches!



#love2011: more thoughts on week 7

#dokindness ... yvette is dovetailing the love project week 7 assignment with a week's event by random acts of kindness. my previous thoughts on week 7 included a little about valentine fun, smiling, donating, and giving gratitude.

RAK challenge ... given yvette dovetailed with RAK, i've been having fun with RAK's daily challenges through this week beginning of valentine's day, the 14th - to date being -
  • send a note of appreciation to someone (day 1)
  • smile at 10 strangers (day 2)
  • hold open the door for someone every chance you get (day 3)
  • bring a treat to your work/school or someone in your neighborhood (day 4) (thanks paddy!)
  • carpool or pay someone's bus, metro or subway fare (day 5)
thursday's tasty RAK treats ... these 3 pastries - bear claw, chocolate croissant, almond horseshoe - were gobbled up by the gentleman that man the parking garage, which i use for work. yes, i realize they are not organic and not that healthy, but i also realize they are what makes someone's morning - especially given their running to park cars, coordinate customers, etc.

today's RAK ... i can use the carpool lane, which means i can zoom by many, MANY others. HOWEVER, today, i am going to become a conventional solo-passenger commuter and purposely pay full toll AND pay the person's toll behind me AND have a longer commute in AND learn patience ...

... and i'll visit paddy's coffee house
for a tasty treat of my own.
patience and sugar,
this morning's pick-me-up!

hipmtfn: week 2 of monday evenings

improv ... my first class was jan 31; my second class was feb 7. we did not have class this week - something about valentine's day. six more classes. our instructors are three of the five guys pictured below - happens to be the ones looking at ya!

quickie class tidbits ... with nine folks taking the class, it's two hours of exercises and activities, one after the other. the first class included exercises on observe, give and take, which involved listening and making connections. the second class included building upon the first class and keeping in mind permission, relationship, environment, risk, which involved establishing trust and understanding status.

take-home tidbits ... after each class, we are encouraged to take home the core of some of the exercises into our daily lives. from this, my days have become much more enriched, colorful, and surprising, albeit these things were in front of my face the whole time. all very much welcomed.

in the first week ... one of the exercises involved looking at something and naming OUT LOUD what it WAS NOT. i decided i would practice this in cubeopolis and around SF; fun but not simple (at least not for me) but fun (really fun!). on the give/take, i observed others' interactions, as well as practicing give and take in conversation. what resulted was an even more heightened awareness of whether people were actually engaged in a conversation, were truly listening, and were even interested. this also made me listen differently - to diction, cadence, tonal qualities, etc. - along with observing eye contact (or lack of). in class, eye contact is important to making that connection. in cubeopolis, one can sense (and see) both bookends of connections - eye contact for the sake of eye contact, along with eye contact from someone who is truly singularly focused on the conversation. i'll take laser-pinpoint focus to vacuous-empty eyes, thank you.

in the second week ... the primary theme was status, e.g., hierarchy, position, etc., with the four little pillars - permission, relationship, environment, risk. and with the class break for valentine, we have two weeks to ponder and work with this. needless to say, cubeopolis is TARGET RICH for this set of activities and observations. TARGET RICH = information overload, but it is all extremely useful.

weeks 1 + 2 ... building upon the first week and incorporating the second week's little tidbits has certainly shifted my perspective - a bit of a double-edged sword. here are a few thoughts on what i've come to realize and appreciate (though not necessarily like or agree) -
  • the imposed-upon status, by the given titles, salaries, organization charts;
  • the acceptance of status, by those who unconditionally acknowledge the imposed-upon status;
  • the assumed status, by those who create his/her own hierarchy irrespective of titles and salaries;
  • the taking of status, by those who simply co-opt from others (fairly or unfairly);
  • the indifference to status, by those who disrespect others;
  • the use of status upon others, by the given roles and responsibilities and/or by some presumption of unconditional acceptance; and
  • ... i'm sure there are many others to this patchwork of status
unexpected ah-ha ... - and i'm thinking that simply with these two classes and my constant intro-retro-pro-spective moments of thought, this has contributed to a major breakthrough - whether i fit in cubeopolis is not relevant. that whole fit thing - it's a construct - we are all different, we are all same, and we are.

go figure.
didn't see that one coming.
celebrate respect.
(can't wait until the third class)
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